You are in a relationship, it’s going on fine but you don’t have the ‘this is it’ kind of feeling. There is no spark and before you know you have plunged deep into the bad relationship cycle. Sometimes you are with a nice person who loves you but that’s just not enough. Before things start to get ugly, break it off and start afresh. These 15 points will help you know when its time to break the bad relationship cycle.
1. Possessive Partners.
Possessiveness is ok, but there is a limit to it, and crossing that often makes your relationship turn ugly and makes your possessive partner look like crazy!
2. Your partner keeps checking your Facebook/Whatsapp/phone messages.
A clear cut sign of trust issues, and justifying it by saying “I have a right to do it because I am your partner” is sooooo lame! Nobody apart from family has the right to that!
3. You always have to ask your partner’s opinion before you take a decision of your own be it career or clothes or food.
When it comes to your own life and taking decisions dont mess it up by giving your partner the rein, because boyfriends and girlfriends come and go but these decisions make a permanent mark in your life.
4. If your partner has lost all interest in you and literally forgets you.
If you have noticed from past couple of months he or she is always distracted, interested in some other things or forgets to call you for days, then its alarming. Clear things out before there is a ‘someone else’.
5. If either one of you is still in the relationship just for physical intimacy.
Not good for the long run!
6. You are poles apart when it comes to mentality.
You might have different taste of food or different movie choices, well that’s fine. But difference in opinion when it comes to something serious or life-deciding indicates you might not be compatible.
7. When your relationship feels like an investment.
If all you are doing is emptying your pockets that means you are wasting time. Relationships are not investments, you should want to be with each other despite of the glamourous dates or the surprising gifts.
8. You keep on having feelings for the next girl or guy you talk to.
You are having emotional issues and you need to take a break from the dating chain. Think clearly for yourself and decide what do you want.
9. Your partner asks you to change, whether physically or in attitude or both!
He or she asked you out because of the amazing you, then why to change? If your partner keeps nagging you to change, then ask them to change their choice of people , not you.
10. You dont remember when was the last time you had your ‘me’ time.
Everybody needs some personal space which your partner should understand. Whether you are a man or a woman, everybody is working and everyone needs some time out from the same old rut. Spending some quality time with one self helps you to think clearly and know what do you want.
11. You feel like you are giving up too much and it is not even worth it.
You are the one sacrificing, whether it is moving in with your partner or going for a holiday or when it comes to leaving your job, sometimes some trivial things are fine. But not always. It is a two way street.
12. You are often being compared with your partner’s ex or a friend or anybody else.
This is the worst thing one can do to make one feel bad about themselves. If you have to compare then why did you leave your ex in the first place or ask that person out but dont waste my time!
13. If he or she is with you so that you can take care of your partner’s parents or cook like his mom or earn like her dad!
Taking care of parents is fine, but it is a problem when thats the only reason you two are together. And people should stop searching their parents in their partners. Everyone is different, respect that!
14. You dont have any say in the relationship.
You feel like your opinion doesn’t matter at all when you both have to take a decision together. If this happens frequently, then its time to have that last talk!
15. The only feeling you have is of being trapped and not of happiness.
Everybody deserves to be happy, and if you cant make yourself happy then you cant make your relationship a successful one. Feeling trapped in a relationship is when you are in a relationship just to be in one, or you are not ready to be that involved with the person. This indicates its time to break it off!