It is said that becoming a parent is the most wonderful feeling of the world which is simply incomparable and unmatched. But many of you might have seen that Indian parents become a little bit revolting to whatever their young kids do and oppose all the decisions taken by them. Sometimes, it may be out of care so that their children don’t move on the wrong path but not always!
Moreover, there’s a natural hesitation or lack of communication skills in Indian parents who find it uneasy to discuss about sex education, rape, periods or other social taboos with their kids but it feels more disheartening when they fail to understand their kids and talk about THEM; what they want, how they feel about something, their likes and dislikes, their goals and dreams are also a part of parenting and a number of parents fail at this. Agree or not, it’s true to a large extent!
Parents are the role models of kids and undoubtedly build their character which no school or academic education can do. They are firstly responsible to teach children the difference between right and wrong but what if parents themselves have done so many wrong things and spoiled a kid’s childhood that he/she has nothing cheery worth sharing with friends or their kids?
A Quora user asked, “What is the most messed up thing that your family member has ever done?”
There were a number of painful tales but this story of an anonymous girl is just heartbreaking! Her shocking account of getting thrashed by mother for being a lefty, hit by father’s belt double folded for not scoring marks as per his expectations, being called a slut just because she held the hand of boyfriend, being treated as a servant and much more would literally give you goosebumps.
Here’s what she shared on Quora:
“Going anonymous for obvious reasons.
Age 5- Being a left handed person always felt like a super power. Mother broke two wooden scales hitting my left hand and turned me into a right handed person. I still use my left hand unknowingly. Old habits die hard.
Age 10- Got hit by father’s belt double folded, Once, Twice, Thrice.. until my skin would peel out and bulge up just because I didn’t score good marks they wanted.
I remember falling at their feet and joining hands for them to stop.
I remember wearing sweater to school, to avoid the questions asked by my friends. To keep the good impression which my mother had created on them.
Age 12- Got caught bunking my tuition classes. Got locked in the same room for more than 3 days. The only time the room would be opened to give me food.
Age 15- My mother caught me and my boyfriend holding hands. That night I wouldn’t forget in my entire life. My parents beat me up red and blue with belt, with sandal, with kitchen items, with everything that came in their hand. Broke my phone. They threatened me of stopping my education and getting me married. I was barely 15.
I remember my head being banged to the wall straight. I couldn’t believe it was the same dad who would caress my hair when I was small. That big bulge on my head pained. There was blood all over the room. (I had my periods that day).
The next morning, I remember my mother making me wash utensils and telling me ‘now on you will be our servant’. Well servants were treated better. She spat on my face.
I cannot forget them burning my books. Especially maths. It was my favourite subject. I was a topper then.
Age 17-I remember being called a Slut by my own mother. (Just for the event I stated above) She said go and sit in some kotha (whorehouse). I cried for days together.
Today I’m 19. I still get tears when they get tears. I still love them. I do get angry and sad at times remembering all of this and more. I still consider them as my parents. But talking about my childhood. I don’t have many good memories.
Give your children memories that they can tell their children about.”
The girl naturally got many replies and users were worried about her condition now. Many offered her help and their questions made the girl edit her answer. She further wrote,
“Edit 1: Firstly, Thank you for all the love and concern. Secondly, things have changed now. I did fight for myself all these years. Only to be called a mean person who answers back. Nobody dares to touch me now. But I did learn to not let anything get into my head and heart.
Thirdly, Me and the guy(ex) have parted ways. I don’t really know where he is now. It’s been years. We don’t talk anymore.
Fourthly, about leaving my parents completely behind, No I wouldn’t, they are getting old, they would need me later. I know they haven’t done their part of parenting well. But it is my duty as a daughter, let me be the bigger person.
And Finally, I did write Chennai Maths Institute (CMI) exam for pure mathematics and currently I’m pursuing my B.E in one of the top colleges in Bangalore, India. 🙂
And the person I’m today? I’m in love with myself. I fought to be me.”
Not everyone is blessed to have kids and if you are fortunate enough to enjoy that blessing, value it!
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Source: Quora